I'm not sure if my last message posted... but I am also new to this
site and I am in much needed sup****t. I am a step-girlfriend and I am
sufferring from living with a fanatic dad syndrome. My stepson is 13
yo and my bf is so enmeshed with his son that i feel so alone,
alienated, abandoned, and out of control in my own home every other
day that he comes to visit. when he is not visiting they are on the
phone together as well. And then there is the exwife that still has
his last name (mind you)... and has constant contact with him. I
feel like an outsider looking in on this "family" all the time. I
realize that much of this comes from my own father and the emotional
abandonment i endured from visiting him everyother weekend while he
sat on the couch and watched football, meanwhile I sat there alone,
abandoned, alienated everytime I visited with him. I mean i know
there is a parallel here in that I have attracted this into my life
now... but how do I move through it and find enough love for myself
and begin to feel a part of this life with my bf and his son. Can I
heal those wounds and really make it work with my bf????
