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Zipadee says...
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>On Dec 14, 9:31 pm, Banty <Banty_mem...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
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>> Really, let this one go. He's moved on. You move on.
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>Yeah, sometimes threads go on longer than the issue they're about.
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>You're certainly right that it's not a major issue. It's just one in a
>long line of very minor issues that have come up over the years. After
>awhile it gets more exasperating. The way a mutual friend once tried
>to explain my ex's actions to me was "he means well". And that's true.
>All the issues that come up are minor ones so I'm fortunate in that
>way. I have the best divorce of anyone I've ever heard of and
>sometimes people are amazed to hear me describe how well things work
>out so I should shut up and be grateful.
No, of course you shouldn't "shut up". (Why do some people think they're
expected to 'shut up' if they simply didn't get total validation of
whatever
they said?)
It's just that there are other perspectives out there..
You have two children - one grown; one nearly grown. Your ex has just
moved on
to a new relation****p. Of course there will be changes. The time period
you
*have to* deal with the ex (vs. *want to* - nothing wrong with continuing
contact) is rapidly drawing to a close. That role of monitoring these
relation****ps is going away. You're approaching empty nest, or at least a
big
change in your role as parent. It's a time of many transitions for you.
I
suspect that's the essential difficulty.
Not that it's a bad thing, not that nearly every other person on earth
doesn't
go through it too.
Cheers,
Banty
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