In a previous article, Tracey <rbrancher2@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> said:
>take the pen and notebook.) Within a week, he had decided that
>joining the military was the best (i.e., what he thought would be
>the *easiest*) thing for him to do.
Boggle. In the current climate he thought that joining the military was
the
*easiest* thing to do? How long did you laugh?
Don't you just want to slap them sometimes?
>I digress though. A couple of thoughts: I don't think I would
>let anyone, even my child, 'use' my hospitality of a bed/bedroom
>without getting some common courtesy from them. I don't think
>I would let my ex-husband use me in that way, either. Now, that's
>just me and based on what my relation****p is with my ex-husband.
>If you're seeing this as a way to give your ex (or his fiancee,
>since you two seem to get along well) a break from the sullenness,
>that's a different thing. But it seems like now, your son has the
>'bennies' of 'living with his father' with none of the negatives.
And none of the negatives of living with you, Zip, and the benefit of his
own
bed and his own belongings.
>As far as the summer job thing goes, there are a few different
>options. Find an inventory service in your area (RGIS is one
>national chain). They usually have a huge turnover rate and
>don't have a problem with people who are only occasionally
>available. Jobs for distributing flyers or advertising might
>be an option.
>
>But he'll have to be on board for that.
I wish I had something constructive to offer, but I don't; I was secretly
terrified that my kids would do this, because I didn't have the slightest
idea
what I'd do about it.
I think what I'd probably try is to take all the benefits of living at
home
away (TV, internet, video games, etc), but he's getting all that at his
dad's
and his dad is too wimpy to put his foot down. I know! Ask the fiancee
to
come live with you! That would give your ex enough room for the son to
move
in completely, and you'd have a congenial housemate!
My SD is moving out with a friend; she's nearly 19 and hasn't finished
high
school yet. Her sister did the same thing, and we agreed to continue
child
sup****t and to help with her rent if she stayed in school and made
progress,
and we required her to give us her login and password so that we could
check
on the school's website to make sure that she was passing. She kept up
her end of the bargain and so did we. Now the younger one wants to know
if
we'll continue to send her money, and we offered the same deal. She
hasn't
replied.
We'll see, I guess.
Vicki
--
"We move toward a lofty ideal. On some great and glorious day, the
plain folks of the land will reach their heart's desire at last, and
the White House will be adorned by a downright moron."
H.L. Mencken, July 26, 1920
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