On Apr 30, 4:40 pm, Tracey <rbranch...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> I digress though. A couple of thoughts: I don't think I would
> let anyone, even my child, 'use' my hospitality of a bed/bedroom
> without getting some common courtesy from them. I don't think
> I would let my ex-husband use me in that way, either. Now, that's
> just me and based on what my relation****p is with my ex-husband.
> If you're seeing this as a way to give your ex (or his fiancee,
> since you two seem to get along well) a break from the sullenness,
> that's a different thing. But it seems like now, your son has the
> 'bennies' of 'living with his father' with none of the negatives.
>
I'm not sure what you mean here.
I don't see what negatives of living with his father he doesn't
have. He still is mostly expected to clean up after himself,
do chores, etc, though ex doesn't follow through as well if
DS doesn't. The fact that he can't stay there overnight is
because they have just 1 bathroom for the 4-5 of them
and school mornings are too hectic without DS and THEY
have refused to let him stay over - it isn't because he doesn't
want to. They'll let him stay on weekends - even those
weekends when her kids ARE there. I'm not sure what
he'd sleep on then though.
Apparently last night DS argued with his dad for an HOUR
and was even willing to sleep in the car to avoid coming back
here. Given that I'm asleep when he comes in and only see
him for about 10 seconds in the morning, I don't know what's
so bad. I'm not really sure what his issues are. I only hope
that the therapist he's seeing can eventually help him sort
himself out.
> As far as the summer job thing goes, there are a few different
> options. Find an inventory service in your area (RGIS is one
> national chain). They usually have a huge turnover rate and
> don't have a problem with people who are only occasionally
> available. Jobs for distributing flyers or advertising might
> be an option.
>
> But he'll have to be on board for that.
True. I haven't heard of those around here but I'll look into it.
He'll probably want to just hang around or visit friends. He
can pay for the visits himself if that's the case.
Tonight he told his dad that he doesn't want a graduation
party. It's a good thing because I certainly won't plan a
party for someone who won't talk to me. Now I have to
decide if I should get a graduation present for him.
Next time I talk to ex's fiancee, I'll tell her she can come
live with me! Actually, I don't think she'd leave her kids
though.
-- Zip
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