Re: Using Ferber method in everyday life

toypup wrote:
> "Joshua Levy" <joshualevy@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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>> So the solution is to get her to expect different things, which you
>> can do little by little.  For example, you could put your baby down
>> and if she cries, come back to her in a minute or two, and then hold
>> her.  The next day come back after two or three minutes.  The third
>> day come back after five minutes, etc.  (This is sort of the opposite
>> of what you have tried so far.)  Or you could pick up the crying baby
>> after a minute, but then put her down again. If she crys again, then
>> pick her up and hold her.  The next day pick her up and put her down
>> twice before holding on to her, and so on.
>
> I've never read Ferber, but isn't that pretty much the Ferber method
> for sleep (leave them a little longer each day)?

Yes it is.  With sleep they are supposedly learning to do something - let
sleep come by itself, without outside help.  They are becoming used to a
new
routine, that of laying quietly by oneself to fall asleep instead of
having
someone else do something to you.  So there is a natural end....sleep.
During the day there is no natural end.  I don't see how this method would
accomplish anything in the same way it accomplishes the sleep thing.  The
end is meaningless to the baby.

--
Nikki
Mama to Hunter (4) and Luke (2)