In article <3f96f9cd.7733906@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>, no.email@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
wrote:
> I am a new SAH mom and need advice. I finally have a baby after many
> years of miscarriage. This baby is the love of my life. In the eyes
> of my mom and friends, I have 'spoiled' the baby because I never let
> him cry. He just seems like a very happy, calm baby 24/7.
Solution 1: While ditching your mother isn't really an option, ditch the
"friends". Your baby is sleeping well, normally happy and contented, so
they're telling you that you must be doing something wrong. Maybe they
are
jealous. If he is generally a happy and calm baby, you can just point and
say, "See? My way works fine!"
> Due to a family crisis - I can no longer lavish my baby with as much
> time and attention as he is accustomed.
>
> He is almost 5 months old [...]
>
> Mind you, he does play by himself with his toys and can entertain
> himself for quite some time, but other times he ****fts into
> 'high-needs mode'. I have a baby carrier, but I it isn't always
> practical, especially if I'm cooking.
Solution 2: I agree that the stress you are under is probably the cause,
since the behaviour is occasional.
Solution 3: There is no point to worrying about what you simply cannot
do,
when you are doing the best you can in a difficult situation. Sometimes
you
may have to let your baby cry (though it's always worth looking for ways
around it) and have to live with the noisy consequences. After all, you
can't
do better than your best.
<snip>
> If I continue to pick my baby up, and not teach him how to 'cry it
> out' & comfort himself during the day - am I setting myself up later
> for a lot of problems, IE: clingy child with social problems?
Well, I never left my child to cry it out, and he is fine at day care and
has
no social problems as of age 2.5. I think clingy children are probably
born
that way, and the same for the outgoing ones.
--
Chookie -- Sydney, Australia
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"Jeez; if only those Ancient Greek storytellers had known about the
astoni****ng
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