"mom0f4boys" <momshea4@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> During a recent vacation at a family cottage, our oldest son (15)
> dipped into the bar and drank enough gin to make himself vomit. It is
> a cottage on the lake, and the kids are sort of 'let loose' at night
> to play games or have a campfire or hang out in one of the
> outbuildings. Our son had two friends along, and when they said
> 'goodnight' around 11PM, we figured they would just hang out and
> talk. Instead, they snagged a bottle of booze and drank most of it.
> This is the first time this has ever happened..... he isn't a
> kid who is always 'out with friends' at all hours, and he is a smart
> kid. I'm thinking this was just the plain old 'let's try this' kind
> of thing that alot of kids do.
> He did try to lie about it. He vomited, and the next day he
> asked me for tips on cleaning vomit out of cloth. When I questioned
> him, he said he found 'old cookies' in the cabinet and they made him
> sick. It was such a lame lie that I think he wanted us to know the
> truth.
> My husband and I both spoke to him (separately), but pretty
> much we are treating it as adolescent foolishness.
> I think we are handling it ok, but I am curious about the
> way any of you guys would have responded.
Not having one that age, but having 2 little brothers that were that age
not
long ago, I would have laughed. Sometimes this kind of situation isn't
worth making a big, huge deal or fuss over. In many cases, it seems, this
is one of those lessons learned. And at that age, they often don't need
to
never hear the end of it.
I would have been more upset about the sneaking and trying to lie, but for
me, it wouldn't have been the end of the world if it was the first time.
It
might very well be the last time this happens, although not always, but
I'd
give him the benefit of the doubt. Chances are if he's asking how to
clean
up vomit, then he has learned *something*. I'd bet that he knows and sees
what he did was stupid. He doesn't need a reminder.
By what you said, I think you handled it just fine!
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