On Jul 13, 2:26 am, mom0f4boys <momsh...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> During a recent vacation at a family cottage, our oldest son (15)
> dipped into the bar and drank enough gin to make himself vomit. It is
> a cottage on the lake, and the kids are sort of 'let loose' at night
> to play games or have a campfire or hang out in one of the
> outbuildings. Our son had two friends along, and when they said
> 'goodnight' around 11PM, we figured they would just hang out and
> talk. Instead, they snagged a bottle of booze and drank most of it.
> This is the first time this has ever happened..... he isn't a
> kid who is always 'out with friends' at all hours, and he is a smart
> kid. I'm thinking this was just the plain old 'let's try this' kind
> of thing that alot of kids do.
Smart kids drink and otherwise get into trouble. Kids who don't go
out with their friends at all hours drink and otherwise get into
trouble. This may well have been his first experience, or it may only
be the first one that you found out about. Either way, I'd advise
that your view of the world is both naive and detrimental to
effectively raising a teen.
> He did try to lie about it. He vomited, and the next day he
> asked me for tips on cleaning vomit out of cloth. When I questioned
> him, he said he found 'old cookies' in the cabinet and they made him
> sick. It was such a lame lie that I think he wanted us to know the
> truth.
I wouldn't assume that at all.
> My husband and I both spoke to him (separately), but pretty
> much we are treating it as adolescent foolishness.
> I think we are handling it ok, but I am curious about the
> way any of you guys would have responded.
I *would* agree with your final analysis, that this is nothing more
than adolescent foolishness. What did you decide to do about alerting
the parents of the boys who were with your son?
Barbara
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