"Banty" <Banty_member@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> In article
> <3a955094-99b9-4726-ab28-46775207b0e7@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>,
> mom0f4boys says...
>>
>>During a recent vacation at a family cottage, our oldest son (15)
>>dipped into the bar and drank enough gin to make himself vomit. It is
>>a cottage on the lake, and the kids are sort of 'let loose' at night
>>to play games or have a campfire or hang out in one of the
>>outbuildings. Our son had two friends along, and when they said
>>'goodnight' around 11PM, we figured they would just hang out and
>>talk. Instead, they snagged a bottle of booze and drank most of it.
>> This is the first time this has ever happened..... he isn't a
>>kid who is always 'out with friends' at all hours, and he is a smart
>>kid. I'm thinking this was just the plain old 'let's try this' kind
>>of thing that alot of kids do.
>> He did try to lie about it. He vomited, and the next day he
>>asked me for tips on cleaning vomit out of cloth. When I questioned
>>him, he said he found 'old cookies' in the cabinet and they made him
>>sick. It was such a lame lie that I think he wanted us to know the
>>truth.
>> My husband and I both spoke to him (separately), but pretty
>>much we are treating it as adolescent foolishness.
>> I think we are handling it ok, but I am curious about the
>>way any of you guys would have responded.
>>
>
> Adolescent foolishness. I woulnd't worry about a hellion on your hands,
> but I
> would lock the cabinet (or better - try not to have much or even any
> liquor
> around), and impose some kind of restriction for awhile so he knows this
> is a
> seriously bad thing to continue.
>
> Banty
I very well might get flamed for this, but I don't know if I agree that a
person should have to lock their cabinet or lessen their amount of alcohol
because of one sneak episode.
Maybe if it happened a second time, but for the first time, I don't know
if
I'd agree that locks or less would be the thing to do.
I'd probably keep the liquor cabinet unlocked and stocked up as normal.
This might also make the son realize that although what he did was just a
stupid act, it might make him feel like he is still trusted to do the
right
thing (ie, stay out of the booze just because he's supposed to) and just
make him NOT feel like a bad little boy.
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