On Jul 17, 2:20 pm, "Stephanie" <h...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> I am starting a new thread since this has gone afield of the original. I
> think some inferences were made on context by what folks may have meant
so I
> am going to clarify my position (I hope).
>
> I don't have any issue with any parent who does not want their care
provider
> to drive their children.
>
> My response was specifically around the posts in which I saw a sentiment
> that if a person pays a provider to care for their child they should be
> watching the child. Perhaps the strictness of the sentence was hyperbole
in
> response to the previous notition that one *must* drive while caring for
a
> child as with "carting my child around all day."
>
> As a provider, it would have been a significant burden not to spend some
of
> the almost 11 1/2 hours a day the kids were in my care not addressing
chores
> related to the maintenance of the house that said care was happening in.
> Even on those days later in my stint when I had only one child in my
care,
> it would not have made sense to spend every minute of those 10 hours
> playing, reading, painting. We both would have gone bug eyed!
>
> None of my clients ever objected if the small percent of time I spent
> managing the house included something like laundry as opposed to meal
> planning, or cooking the family dinner (lord knows it better not be more
> complicated than mac n cheese) as many of the child care related chores
> could not be done until the children had left.
I would not object to that either (and don't, I know my DCP does some
housework while the kids are playing), provided she's within ear shot/
relatively close by.
I *would* object to her working out in the yard while the kids are
inside playing. Her house is small enough that pretty much anywhere in
the house would be within ear shot, but if it was a large place with
'wings' of sorts, I'd expect her to be in reasonably close proximity
to be able to respond immediately should there be a problem.
I *do* object to a DCP doing personal errands while providing paid
child care, particularly those which involve driving my child, which
is by its very nature a risky activity. I am more open to an outing
that's for the benefit of the kids, depending on the cir***stances. I
would expect my DCP to ask permission to put my child in the car, as
that has not been previously agreed to. I may say yes, depending. In
the past, I've said no.
All this talk of driving,
> even if I had had a car big enough for everyone, I would not have chosen
to
> take 8 to 10 children to the grocery store or hardware store or
whatever! It
> rather all works out in the end with no need to micromanage a provider's
> time if you trust that your end goal and hers (most often) are the same;
> excellent care, nurturing, activities, nutricion, environment for the
> children in her care.
See, I would have assumed I didn't need to micromanage my first
provider's time, because it would never have occurred to me she might
want to drive my child to pick up their motorcycle or take her with
her son (and other kids) to the doctor (although that did not require
driving, it was on base). I would never in a million years have
considered doing personal errands while babysitting even one child on
a casual basis, so it didn't occur to me a licensed professional would
think to do this.
I've also learned that the end goal is not always the same - I think
for at least a few of the SAHM DCP's I've met, their end goal is
earning some income while they stay home with their kids (not a bad
goal, but has a tendency to leave out all the other issues). For my
current DCP, her end goal is as you describe: excellent care,
nurturing, activities, nutrition and providing a wonderful
environment. She considers her home her place of business, and treats
the situation as a professional.
> I figure I would clarify my meaning since I think there were many
> assumptions of context and meaning that what we all really meant was
getting
> lost.
I think it's clear that the provider and the client need to discuss
expectations in advance, and stick with them. If one is not happy with
the options, one looks elsewhere.
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