On Jul 17, 2:41 pm, "Stephanie" <h...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> cjra wrote:
>
> > I think it's clear that the provider and the client need to discuss
> > expectations in advance, and stick with them. If one is not happy with
> > the options, one looks elsewhere.
>
> You know what winds up troublesome is the cases in which the provider
has
> the same goal as you describe, money. Without the other goal, they may
be
> motivate to twist the truth. That is where I feel the interview process
and
> a good gut instinct for truth stretching goes a long way. I did not have
> that at first, and the kids suffered.
Just for the record - I know the DCP needs to earn and income, and I
am willing to pay what they request. I know they have to work hard -
it's not a job I would choose. Income is always part of the end goal
for just about everyone. The problem comes when it's the *only* goal.
I understand a young mom's desire to stay home with her kids, but I do
think a lot of SAHMs go into being DCPs thinking it's the perfect
thing : stay home with kids, make money, without recognizing the
demands of the position.
This particular DCP was really nice, had provided daycare for a few
years already, and generally we felt good about the situation. It was
only after some time when the issue of going on errands started coming
up that I started having concerns. over time it got worse, as her
focus ****fted to her home/personal requirements and not to her job. I
am sure there are plenty of SAHM DCPs who recognize the professional
aspect of the position they've created, but I've known a few like this
one.
That is why, when someone says they want to take my kid to the bank,
grocery shopping, etc, I will bristle. That's *not* what I'm paying
them to do. No, they don't have to be glued to my kid all day. They do
have to recognize that caring for a child requires their continued
attention, however, and personal errands have to be put on hold.
I'm not opposed to caring for a child on an occasional basis, with
prior agreement about what that would involve. And I'd happily let
certain people care for DD on an occasional basis, but that's
different from a DCP, which family or not, I would consider a
professional relation****p.
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