cjra wrote:
> On Jul 17, 3:50 pm, Ericka Kammerer <e...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
>> I think there's a world of difference between that and
>> driving, particularly when we're talking about in-family childcare
>> rather than a childcare business. I think it is *very* common
>> for in-family childcare to be considered the same as the parent
>> watching the child, such that the family child care provider
>> can essentially do nearly anything with the kids that the parents can
>> do (driving, errands, etc.). I'm not saying that's a requirement--
>> I'm just saying that is something common enough that I'm surprised
>> anyone would be shocked by it.
>
> For a baby, I wouldn't expect my siblings or parents to just drive DD,
> without my permission, or just assume it was fine if they were charged
> with babysitting. I wouldn't do so with my nieces and nephews, without
> their ok.
>
> My sister DID drive my daughter around last year at a year old, it
> wasn't a big deal, it was part of the plan....but it *was* discussed.
> I would be hesitant if this was expected to be a regular occurence
> though.
Like I said, I think there's a very wide range of
normal on this one. I don't think it's abnormal that in
some families driving your grandchild/niece/whatever around
is taken for granted, and I don't think it's abnormal for
driving to be something that only happens with advance
permission. I think *both* of those positions, and others
in between, are very common. That's why you can't assume
and have to talk about it. Heck, even in our babysitting
co-op that didn't have all *that* many rules we had specific
expectations spelled out regarding driving.
The point is not that any of the possible positions
is inherently bad. The point is that it is reasonable to
expect that positions vary, which makes this a prime issue
for discussion. One doesn't have to get to a single right
answer because there isn't one, but one *does* have to
achieve clarity and agreement among the parties involved.
Best wishes,
Ericka
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