On Jul 17, 10:07 pm, "toypup" <toy...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> "Banthy" <Banthy_mem...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
>
> news:g5os7c02iq4@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
>
> > To get your *own* thing back? From *ten* year old??
>
> > Good grief, you dont' have to be running to get permission to get your
own
> > things back.
>
> The kid was maybe 2 or 3 yo. The sister was next to her, maybe 10. The
> sister told her I needed it back because were were leaving, but the
little
> girl just sort of sat there. I then told her I needed it back because
we
> were leaving. I took it off her, because she wasn't moving and because
I
> don't think she could do it herself, because it is a big ring.
>
> The friend I was with was offended, saying they should have brought
their
> own toys, if they don't want people taking back their toys from their
kids.
> I'm not sure which way I should look at this. I know some people are
> particularly sensitive about their kids, but I don't think I'd be upset
if
> someone took their toys home that my child was borrowing. After all,
we'd
> just have been happy they let us borrow it. I would probably get to my
> child first to return the toy before the owner had to come get it, but
if I
> didn't know they owned the toy, I wouldn't be upset the owner came to
take
> it herself. After all, if she was watching, I at first shouted to DS to
go
> get the toy, but as I saw a toddler in it who was not budging, I went to
get
> it. I think the parent should have known we wanted it back.
>
> Come to think of it, I don't think I've ever been in a situation where
> another parent came to me to get back a toy. They've always gone to my
> child to just ask for it back.
*Was* she watching from afar?
It sounds like a tricky situation -- at our local swimming hole, toys
are freely shared but in the event of physically removing a toy from a
small hand I defer to a parent. It sounds unfortunate that the parent
(of >3 kids?) was busy doing something else -- at the same time, I'm
very touch adverse and would be a little weirded out with a stranger
(there are -- for better or worse -- no strangers here) taking
something off of a child's body. Hard call. I can well remember
ignoring DD2 when dealing with DD1's own diving issues, so it's not
entirely extreme, to me, that the other parent wouldn't have been
immediately on top of this. (Actually, given that both girls are level
4 or higher, I tend to ignore them both for large stretches of time
when the lifeguards are present......)
Caledonia
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