"mom0f4boys" <momshea4@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote in message
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> Toypup, I don't think you did anything wrong. I was thinking the same
> thing Banty said.... that if you had gone to the mom to ask her to get
> the ring back from her child, she might have thought you were over-
> fussy (like, just get your ring, lady!)... or she may have felt that
> you were annoyed with her child or with her. This is all just silly.
> It's a lack of graciousness on the mom's part, and not a big deal.
> You can't anticipate the reactions of people you don't know. You
> shared with people you didn't know, collected your belongings
> politely, and got reprimanded by a stranger. Don't stress about YOUR
> behavior. It doesn't feel nice to have another adult be irritated/
> angry with you. Most of the time, we associate with people who share
> a certain code of politeness, and again: graciousness. When a
> conflict happens, that code calls for one to question oneself first.
> But this is a case of a stranger not following the code. Liken it to
> a language barrier, say 'OK' and make your exit. You did everything
> right.
> I get your feelings, though. It stinks to be reprimanded, whether
> it's called for or not. IN this case, NOT. Shake it off!
Thanks all. I'm not really stressing. I just wonder what the typical
protocol is, because I'm sure I'll run into it again. If I am in the
wrong,
I wanted to know so that it is not I who am out of place.
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