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mom0f4boys says...
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>Toypup, I don't think you did anything wrong. I was thinking the same
>thing Banty said.... that if you had gone to the mom to ask her to get
>the ring back from her child, she might have thought you were over-
>fussy (like, just get your ring, lady!)... or she may have felt that
>you were annoyed with her child or with her.
Yep. I think any possibility of Toypup contributing to the situation
(other
than being there and being generous with the toys as seems the custom in
the
pool) has been examined and discarded.
>This is all just silly.
>It's a lack of graciousness on the mom's part, and not a big deal.
Yep. It's a momma-bear thing. My kid crying - what did *you* do - you
monster.
>You can't anticipate the reactions of people you don't know. You
>shared with people you didn't know, collected your belongings
>politely, and got reprimanded by a stranger. Don't stress about YOUR
>behavior.
I'd say, don't stress *anymore* over her behavior. I think it's well
worthwhile
thinking about and getting a level-set about these things.
>It doesn't feel nice to have another adult be irritated/
>angry with you. Most of the time, we associate with people who share
>a certain code of politeness, and again: graciousness. When a
>conflict happens, that code calls for one to question oneself first.
>But this is a case of a stranger not following the code. Liken it to
>a language barrier, say 'OK' and make your exit. You did everything
>right.
Yeah, I would have said "OK", sometimes even "sorry" and left. And taken
a
mental note of what she looked like (even her car too or something like
that if
I could) for future avoidance, to further help keep the peace. Not a
person I
want to get to know LOL.
> I get your feelings, though. It stinks to be reprimanded, whether
>it's called for or not. IN this case, NOT. Shake it off!
Yep. But it's tough to shake off sometimes - sometimes that reprimanded
feeling
just has to wear off.
Banty
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