Re: Driving in the car with Grandma

On Jul 22, 5:35=EF=BF=BDpm, "Michelle J. Haines" <mhai...@[EMAIL PROTECTED]
> wrote:
> Chris wrote:
>
> > LOL. You might be pleasantly surprised how a stern look from grandma,
> > even those who usually takes joy in letting the child get his/her own
> > way just to get even with you, and a "We/You do not unbuckle that belt
> > in grandma's car." with a car stop =EF=BF=BDcan make your child NOT
unb=
uckle
> > that belt. lol.
>
> ...Or, she might not.
>
> My five year old is so damned stubborn that my MIL, who taught school
> for 25 years, has declared her the most stubborn child she's ever met in
> her life. =EF=BF=BDAnd while she's somewhat more compliant for other
adul=
ts than
> for us, like most children, I HAVE seen her absolutely refuse to follow
> the instructions of other authority figures also.
>
> Like at the pool recently, with her swim teachers, from a position she
> didn't know I was watching. =EF=BF=BDShe up and decided she's not
putting=
 her
> face in the water. =EF=BF=BDAnd is currently so stubborn about it that
af=
ter she
> passed Level I swimming a week and a half ago, and spending a week in
> Level II...starting this week again at Level II they had to put her back
> in Level I...all because she got water up her nose once and has since
> refused to comply with any instruction that involves her head in the
> water, period. =EF=BF=BDThey can't cajole or convince her like with most
> children, she just refuses.
>
> Michelle
> Flutist

She's no fool - water in your nose burns! It must have been a good
enough dose too. Can't blame her one bit. She'll get back on that
horse eventually.

I don't really consider things that take convincing/cajoling out of
fear the child has developed as being necessarily oppostionally
defiant though or with trying to get them to eat their vegetables that
they obviously dislike. Now, if she were breaking rules such as
throwing rings in the pool after being told it was not allowed by an
authority figure, other than mom and dad, and a complete stranger, I
might actually get worried about oppositional defiant disorder if
other factors also played a role.